“They felt m/m porn allowed them to enjoy rough and kinky sex without having to worry about self-identifying with a character in the scene and being pulled out of the fantasy,” Neville says. Neville’s research shows that women’s greatest grievances with straight porn are the unequal power dynamics, (particularly in kink and/or BDSM scenes) not knowing if the women involved were genuinely having a good time and/or orgasming, fears about exploitation of women in the sex industry, the over-representation of a certain kind of female body, and the fact that hetero porn often shows women having multiple orgasms effortlessly through penetrative vaginal sex - which is not the reality for a lot of women. Men appreciating and pleasuring the male body.” What’s so sexy about it all is that it feels intimate to me. “Sucking dick is portrayed as the art form it is, not just some guy fucking a woman’s face. “Male gay porn features lots of dick, all kinds - and they’re the main event,” she continues. Straight porn is all about getting the male off, the female is just a prop.” “I experience the same frustration with Hollywood roles written for women by men it’s all just very self-serving. “I find straight porn offensive to women,” Layla, a 44-year-old woman who also prefers gay porn, agrees. I feel like when men have sex together it’s just pure fun.” “I also just really love penises and male bodies. and you can’t really tell if they’re faking an orgasm,” Kirah explains. “I like gay male porn because women in porn are often over-sexualized, demonized, unappreciated, abused, etc. Rather, it’s that the majority of heterosexual porn is created by men, for men, and is therefore not reflective of female desire. In turn, these women resort to watching porn created for a demographic that’s been similarly marginalized, since gay men, too, have historically had their desires ignored and their representation in erotic texts co-opted. As a certified sex educator and queer man, I have to agree.Ĭonsidering Pornhub found that women represent more than one-third of the site’s gay male porn views (making it the second most popular category among the demographic behind “lesbian”), perhaps the issue here isn’t fetishization. Since nothing about the seconds-long video seemed abnormal, Wright believes the response to Kirah’s video was way too harsh. “Whereas a fetish, as a noun, is defined as a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked, to an abnormal degree, to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.” “To fetishize, as a verb, is to make something the object of a sexual fetish,” Wright explains. “In no way is saying what turns you on personally inherently fetishization.” “I really dislike the fact that this TikTok user got called out in such a negative way,” says sex and relationship therapist Rachel Wright, MA, LMFT. Kirah’s video went viral and currently hosts over 35,000 comments and an alarming number of death threats. “So when I posted it I was expecting the same response since I thought society was moving more toward -positivity than slut-shaming.” “I was really surprised that it blew up because I’d told my best friend that I watch gay porn and she didn’t think much of it,” she explains. “At first the responses were agreeing with what I said, but after about four hours, they got really nasty,” she tells InsideHook.
It was a seemingly harmless observation (and typical TikTok fodder) that turned controversial when a rush of gay men accused Kirah of fetishizing the gay male community. This was made abundantly clear earlier this year when TikTok user posted a video with with the text: “When I realized gay male p**n turns me on more than straight p**n.” You know how tons of straight men enjoy watching lesbian porn and nobody bats an eye? The same doesn’t seem to apply to women who watch gay porn.